This is taken from the Mookychick.co.uk
Dear Mookychick,
Well, I have a boyfriend that I`ve been dating for about a month already && I really like him; but I'm not so sure if he feels the same about me. I have a job that pays me good money && sometimes I feel like he is only with me for the money. He has no job && he is about to get kicked out of his grandparents home because he doesn`t do nothing but skate all day. He doesn`t, at least, try to find a job. He tells me he puts in applications, but I know he lies to me because he is always with me. He is at my house from 12am to 11pm every fucking day!....&& as soon as he walks into the house he wants me to make him food or give him money. I have been spending my whole check on him since day one....&& I can`t even buy my ownself a pair of shoes because he wants a new skateboard!....Between the hours he is at my house we never get to spend time alone (except when we have sex or when he just wants to lay in bed && sleep) because he either wants to use my laptop or be in the room with my brothers. I just feel he is with me for the money , sex && food...but sometimes I blame myself because I had told him that if he ever needed anything he could come to me...but I never meant anything like this to happen. I wanted to be his second option when it came to money && shit like that....I just want him to at least try. I don`t know whether to leave him or stay with him. I really like him && I don`t want to lose him. He tells me he really likes me && he shows it but what if I'm just blind about all his bullshit! I mean, a lot of girls want him...&& when I'm around his friends` he shows me off && to the bitches that want him....but when the check comes around...I feel used. Please help.
Love, Anonymous Me xxx
Amanda says...
relationship advice Sorry to be frank, but this guy's using you. He's taking advantage of your kind nature and walking all over you. I'm assuming he's a real cool hottie and good in bed - why else would you waste time with him? Just because you said he could come to you if he needed anything, that doesn't make you his surrogate mum! The boy has to learn to grow up and stand on his own two feet. Sounds like you're getting bored with him, anyway, so perhaps it's time to give him the ultimatum - shape up or ship out! If you want to continue the relationship, stop giving him money and letting him hang around so much. Tell him you've put a deposit on something big and need to pay it off and haven't got time for his loitering. He sounds like he has no respect for you or himself!
Ashley says...
relationship advice Darling, you're being taken for a ride. Your instinct about him being with you for the money is probably right - he doesn't need to prioritize anything but grinding the rails, as you've made it clear you'll take care of him. It's emotional blackmail, and he probably justifies it by saying that if you're happy shelling out for him, then what's the problem? Or, if you REALLY loved him, you'd keep on funding his Funyuns and grip tape habit (which is bullshit). He wants a mommy and he wants to be an 11-year-old on permanent vacation. You're obviously smart enough to see how gank that position is. Don't blame yourself for offering your support - that's what people who care for each other do. What he's doing is taking full advantage of it. The only way he'll try is if he HAS to. Believe me, those other chicks wouldn't want him if they knew they'd be stuck like he has you, wiping his bum after him.
marty's response.
Oh dear oh dear. the age old problem of "am i being used?" well where can i start? you have been seeing this guy for a month and 1) you are spending all your money on him 2)he gets to shag you whenever he likes 3)he gets to use your laptop while you make him food 4)he gets on with your brothers and 5)you dont mind that he still uses a skateboard. Holy shit girl you got any sisters? You are a total meal ticket and the ideal girlfriend. Imagine what you will do when you two have been going out for a few years. The sex will be like something from a dodgy German porn flick, you wil be buying his carry outs and paying for his online poker and all he has to do is parade you about once in a while to his mates. You are one top notch chick. Hope to Christ girl you have good prospects because every bloke who reads this is gonna want to marry you. Those other two dizzy bitches who told you to leave him havent exactly been honest with you. Every bloke in the world wants a bird who will shag him silly, who will wipe his arse should he ask and pay for all the crap that he wants. you are the best girl in the world and I think you should start some kind of course to get more babes like you out there. Keep up the good work lassie
Marty
